You give & you shake
"Give & take" is not an expression that is expected to actually be muttered during a 'give & take' situation, at least among the savvy classes.
If it is indeed a situation of give & take, this should be 'non-verbally' understood between all parties, otherwise it cheapens the relationship - or at worst, makes one think twice about the whole situation.
You give & you take: understood. This is how life goes; how relationships work; and generally, the way of the world. An honourable person would give first, and take, if the situation warrants it, with their integrity intact.
What happens, though, when you give - your all - and what you get (as opposed to take) is far worse than what you bargained for, or that you could ever have imagined. What happens when you put your dreams and invest your future in a relationship you thought could never end. Is it time to move on; fight; or simply keep giving, knowing that the situation is by far unjust and wrong - something you could have never expected.
Is there a way out? Is there a defined avenue for seeking the truth and protecting one's integrity, or does one have to just sit back and thank one's lucky stars that at least, one is still alive & breathing? The latter is survival, whereas the former is life.
"What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger."
What if you were strong to begin with, and you ended up in a terrible situation which, to the logical mind, you are not to blame for, but the general consensus rules otherwise. What if one was, in fact, killed. Would general concensus then overrule international logic?
Many civilised, logical arguments could prevail in this scenario, but it would be best to keep giving and stay strong, even though the joy in the reciprocated 'taking' - in whichever form that comes - may be greatly and permanently diminished.
13 comments:
Paragraph 4 (can't be arsed to cut & paste, sorry): In my opinion, if you see the writing on the wall with respect to a one way (as in you give & the partner takes) relationship, you get the hell out. It'll hurt, no denying that, but unless you're into sado-masochism, all you do by staying is destroying a little bit of yourself every day.
P5:
Is there a way out? There's always a way out darlin; you take control of the situation & you make your way out. It might be empty handed & broken hearted, but there comes a time when you have to put YOU first.
P6:
If you were strong to begin with, you'll have reserve strength to get you through whatever the situation is. (I honestly do have the t-shirt on this one & it's from wayyy back!) As to general consensus.......in any logical reasoning, there will be understanding, so why let others or even international consensus over-rule what you KNOW to be the truth?
P7:
Only you can determine if your self worth is actually more important..............keep giving & getting minimal response, nah, not in my book hon. If a person FULLY understands that they're in a relationship, where they constantly give but get sod all out of it & yet are prepared to carry on in such a manner, then they must surely understand that they choose to live like that.
*bugger, I should start charging for this babble!*
you start to sound like Gloria Gaynor
*jayne, soz if you've wasted ur time - of course I agree with everything you say and I abide by all those principles but where 'relationship' is referred to in the post, it's not with ref to a 'person' - rather, an entity! Catch my drift? ;-) Anyway I've been meaning to get this off my chest for a long time. Nothing can be done about it...and I just gotta try remember what life was like before this shit happened.
*nick, personally I don't see the humour in it but the whole situation is a laughing matter.
Anyway soz for the confusion but it's actually a rant in disguise & didn't quite expect anyone to understand it..
"What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger."
Yup, true that :) Often, I believe everything happens for a reason, and often it is for a better tomorrow/future.
Life ain't easy at times, when the ride get a bit rough, we've got to hang tough.
Chin up - I pray, things easen up :)
Some people I have noticed in life are habitual takers.They just suck the life out of you with their selfishness. As a wife and a mother I tend to give more, and I see myself as a full glass that needs very little to be topped up again. i do so much for my kids, and just when i am running on empty, the kids or my husband, or Jayne will do something that will fill me up.A lot of times when I have been sadly disappointed with one individual I find that someone else eventually replaces their taking. Needless to say the hurt caused from that person's selfishness can seldom be replaced.But I also believe what goes round comes round, and a lot of these "takers", tend to have very empty souls.
I do not know what is behind this post, but i leave with you a favourite quote of mine by Dominiqque Lapierre: "All that is not given is lost", and hope you feel filled up soon.
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sorry, - I was reading it with one eye only. I must have missed the deeper meaning. Which there is, I am sure.
(Split screen, you see. Area schedule spreadsheet & Princess blog.)
*rosh - wise words indeed. Whatever has happened, has happened. I can't change the past but in a way, I guess I am glad to have experienced this reality shock, even though it has really taken a toll on me in every aspect of my life. I'd better chillax, so I guess that is what I'll do! Still, I enjoyed the rant ;-)
*kaya - I would love to be a mother and experience first-hand whatever you mention! I can't stand suckers and can spot them a mile off. They have invisible tentacles (yuck!). Well, the situation in the post is referring to something that has unfairly not worked out the way it should have done, according to international standards. And really, there's no way out, except to keep fighting and regaining hope.
Thanks for the quote - and indeed, "what goes around comes around" - without a doubt ;-) Those suckers will get what they deserve hehe...
Sweety,
This is cruel
BUT YOU HAVE JUST BEEN TAGGED.
oooooooh.
How u say? Whoop de dooo.
(lol)
*nick, kein Problem! No offence taken - the post is not that clear, for certain reasons. Thx for your understanding, and p.s. I LOVE EXCEL!!! Do your Area Mngrs take up more than one cell with their surnames, I wonder...;-)
What. I didn't know you were German, or knew to speak German..
Could it be there is more to you that meets the eye?
Naaah.
*nick, I am actually one of those Area Managers of yours who responds to your comments in my coffee breaks too ;-)
Jawohl, ich spreche Deutsch! You missing 7 summits? hehe.
7 Summits - Nein
Al rep - Ja
hehe
nick - hahaha!
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