Life as a Desperate Princess
I have come to a stance where my view on a few matters has changed. This is not particularly ascribed to the unnecessarily judgmental comments that ensued as a consequence of the subject matter in the below post, but a culmination of events in my life that have made me drastically change my general outlook in the battle for survival, and how to progress in the challenges that lie ahead.
First of all, life, as I have understood it, is not what I imagined it to be. There are so many complications: mostly related to humans; human behaviour; psychology. Communication is the key. But can we determine the appropriate method of communicating with anyone when everything else is so complicated? Every action has a reaction. How can one foresee the ramifications of ones' actions when the world is run by billions of humans interacting with each other, when anything can happen in an imminent tomorrow where the future is definitely unpredictable?
Life is apparently not as simple as I thought. If you are good, people take advantage. If you're female and act tough, you get branded by men with an inferiority complex. If you talk, you can't actually say what you really mean. When you agree, it's just not OK to say OK. As Sartre said,
'Hell is other people'.
Even if I change, I will continue to seek out the 'good' in humans because there are plenty of heroes out there who bless this world with their presence, which serves as a reminder that life is not all that bad.
My change of strategy is not due to depression; but perhaps some kind of mid-life crisis without even having reached mid-life yet, whatever mid-life is.
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What I have observed is that life is not really complicated, it is us humans who make it so using the excuse of race, religion, status in the society, etc.
But we forget one thing, all of us are equal in one thing & none of us can deny that, and that thing is that one day we have to leave this world leaving behind everything we claimed ownership of so proudly.
May Allah give you more strength & courage to do whatever you are planning to do.
"But we forget one thing, all of us are equal in one thing & none of us can deny that..."
True that. Man has created all sortsa borders, boundaries and divisions, given religion, race, culture, monies, all of which are quite temporary - none of which matter when time's up and beyond,.
It is sad you know - every life is important, everyone has a right to live in basic comforts, with some TLC and peace - yet, these are the hardest to come by. Growing up in small town SHJ, people had the basics and a bit more and they seemed happy those days. Today, in this large city with the super rich/materialistic/greed - and the very poor/homeless, I am quite lost and confused given disparity and helplessness of families who struggle to get by and in debt.
They call this the land of the plenty - I think these days it's also the land where rich becomes richer & more selfish and the average struggles to get by - the poor, almost forgotten.
*dubai_guy, thank you for the little prayer. I wanted to respond this morning and was wanting to thank you then...so: happy belated thanks - kind and thoughtful of you.
You do what makes you feel good, and let the pieces fall where they may.
You can spend a lifetime doing what other people expect/want but at the end of the day, you have one life and you have to live it as your heart deems right.
Mid-life crisis?
Habibti LIFE is the mid-life crisis!!
Big Mamma is back and heres a HUG from her.
Cheer up darling or come down to AbuDhabi and let me cook you a meal to knock your socks off.
You still depressed? Don't worry, it's not the men, it's the onset of crap weather season.
"......come down to Abu Dhabi and let me cook you a meal ...."
Speaking with my travel agent as I type this :) Home cookin and at AUH - hallelujah!
Oh wait, invite's not for me?
dear *kaya, thank you for your touching comment...
Read every word of it and your words are so beautiful...
Thanks for your understanding. It's one of those 'realisations' I was experiencing.
*the real nick...I think it's more the onset of the "Great Depression" part 2! Not depressed personally. Some things just make sense with age.
*rosh, by now I think the tea party at your 'blog home' has the same invitees as my blog ;-)
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From what I've seen in this city so far cannot be compared to the lifetime experiences of those of whom ACTUALLY live here. My thoughts mean squat to those living in the city, because at the end of the week, I leave back home to Miami and have to go through the doldrum of life again. But what I can say on what I know: People make a city, not any infrastrucuture, physical or otherwise, but whole communities of people and culture.
No matter what happens, embrace that culture, because its harder to kill that than anything else. The states don't have culture, only recycled cultures that people bring with them from other countries. For me, that would be Hispanic, namely Cuban. But when I'm in this city, when I walk down Al Ghubaiba or Al Waleed and see the shops, the faces, the people...i see genuine culture, even if its not from around here. For me, its an honor to see how people live and work and make an honest wages.
My experience from architecture also tells me that one cannot be successful without including people in the mix, which is what the new city is doing. The buildings are pretty, but they build in vanity. Only time will tell for this city, and only the people will survive it. Find the good in those people, because a world community withstands longer the any worldwide infrastructure.
"Find the good in those people, because a world community withstands longer the any worldwide infrastructure."
*chris scull - what an interesting analytical viewpoint.
Re: "recycled culture", I would say Dubai has plenty of that!
People do make a city but in Dubai the social structure is unique, to say the least...
i*maginate and rosh
You make the plan and let me know.
You are both welcome, and its not an offer I throw out at random to everyone.
**You have been HUGGED**
Thanks darling kaya...that's so very sweet of you!
Kaya-g you are so very kind, tonsa Shukrans :) Huge hug back at you, you kind soul :)
Its nice to see that you are embracing change, not resisting it. Change is good... Allows you to have a fresh new perspective of things to do, see, say, hear...etc
awww....
turns into a puddle in the driving seat of my beemer...(Please i have to maitain my CHAV-ness)
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